Let's forget about it. It doesn’t matter.
What we did. How much we ate. It’s not a big deal.
Can we pretend it never happened?
After a food binge, the aftermath of our struggle carries a heavy weight from shame and guilt. So heavy, that we just want to be free from it. Facing it is too much.
Flashes from last night’s extra Oreos, ice cream and chocolate are painful. We wonder why we can't have more self control.
Why did we go back for more? We knew we weren’t hungry. Why couldn’t we stop ourselves? Did we think more food would take the discomfort away?
Now, our belly feels so bloated we are afraid to touch it. Feeling the roundness is confirmation that we did eat too much. Our body did absorb each bite. There’s evidence to prove it.
The hangover from a night of overeating can be absurdly difficult when we use guilt and shame to dictate how we feel and what we do next. All we want to do is cover up our bloated belly in an oversized sweatshirt and try our best to have a “good” day. We try our best to pretend it never happened.
But it did. Now we will pay for the mess we made.
An extra long workout. More water. Smoothie for lunch. Salad for dinner. We pray that a whole lot of sweat and a strict diet plan will be like magic and make everything okay.
How we react to our binges keeps the binge cycle in place.
Recovery is absolutely possible. But trying harder to doing more of the same isn't the path. You don't need to be stricter. You don't need more will power. You don't need more time at the gym.
Stopping the binge cycle starts the moment the binge is over.
Stop pretending. Pretending takes so much work and effort. Stop hiding and fighting with yourself. Instead of thrashing around your arms and legs, putting a ton of energy into fixing your “so called mistake”, let go of the shame you feel. There is no need to run or hide.
To stop struggling, you need courage, compassion and curiosity.
- Be willing to try a new approach.
- Be willing to explore all parts of yourself with a loving heart.
- Be willing to look at your actions, thoughts and beliefs with great interest. Be a dispassionate observer.
If you overate or binged last night, today is a brand new day. Allow yourself to be where you are. You're okay. Let your next choice be a new one, one that you haven't taken before. when you do, recovery is one step closer.